Albert Ellis, the founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), revolutionized how we understand the language of our thoughts, especially the words should , ought , and must . These words may seem harmless, but Ellis identified them as key contributors to emotional distress and irrational beliefs. This blog explores what Ellis said about these terms, why they matter, and how changing our relationship with them can improve mental well-being. Person reflecting on the imp

When you ask someone why they did something, you might expect a straightforward answer. Instead, you often get a defensive response. This reaction can feel frustrating or confusing, especially when your intention was simply to understand. But why does asking "why" trigger defensiveness? Exploring this question reveals important insights about communication, human psychology, and how to foster better conversations. Why Asking Why Can Feel Like a Threat The word "why" often imp